After reading some of the comments I received on the Saturday post, I am wondering perhaps if I said it right.
PawPaw provided me with a link to a wonderful article about men and how they think that was VERY illuminating.
GuyK has an excellent series over at his place called Battle of the Sexes in several parts. This part that I have highlighted here is what got me to thinking the most.
These men are not the types of men that I am speaking of. They do not have questions about their role in life, their role in the lives of their wives, or their children. These questions are for the OTHER men out there...
And, before I start, understand that I'm not dogging women or their accomplishments..I am one and I appreciate the fact that I am able to choose to be home taking care of my children rather than it be something that I have no choice but do.
When are men going to have the same choices? Things are not equal in the world, no matter how hard we try to pretend that they are. In their own ways, men are just as oppressed in this day and age than women ever were.
How many men feel the need to stay in bad relationships because that's the only way they are going to get to see their children?
How many men are confident that if they sue for custody, they would win? How many men would even try at this point in the game? I have known men who have been just as abused as any battered woman...stay because of the kids.
How many men have the choice to work ...or not..and stay home to take care of the house primarily?
How many women actually pay child support and of the ones that do, do they pay enough? How many men would actually sue for child support?
When are men going to be recognized as nurturers and capable of taking care of their children...without help from a woman?
I honestly don't think the intent of the idea that women should get equal pay for equal work and recognition for our unique accomplishments hardly translates over into what it is today. Women are going to have to recognize that they cannot have it all. Something is going to give someday and women are going to get more equality than they've bargained for.
I can remember after the Tailhook Scandal of '91 how difficult life became in the military for men to even do their jobs. They were afraid to say a woman looked nice for fear of sexual harrassment charges. Previously happy working environments were turned into places of hostility and suspicion. Men were in fear for their careers because women were considered to be automatically right. And, you better believe there were plenty of unfounded accusations floating around..just because some woman had a grudge and were handed the axe in which to behead the person that she was pissed at.
I have no doubt that it is the same today. When are men going to be able to work in a non-hostile environment?
I'm just saying.....
Monday, September 19, 2005
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Now you know why I plan on staying single the rest of my life...
"I have no doubt that it is the same today. When are men going to be able to work in a non-hostile environment?"
When? You wanna know when? I'll tell ya when.
When we go back and be hard assed intelligent boys like the little rascals and put the damned "No Women Allowed" sign at the front door, right up next to the damned "Keep your gun in your car, your dick in your pants and the No Smokin' signs.
Ahhh.. I had to get it out...
Today, I opened a door for a Lady that had her hands full. I was outside smokin' and I saw her comin' with both hands full headin' for the door. Hell, I walked over and opened it without "thinkin'".
After I did, I got to wonderin', ... Could that be considered sexual discrimination... I probably wouldn't have done it for a man. I would've if he asked me to, but doin' it 'cause she was a woman... That's just the tip of the ice berg. Hell, I'm half afraid to look at most women I work with 'cause I might be accused of "elavator eyes"... What bullshit. If I spy you checkin' my crotch out, am I 'spose to go tell the boss?
Things that make me go Hmmmm.
So, tell me...why would you open the door for a woman and not a man? If the man's hands are full and he drops the eggs...they're going to break no matter who's holding them....
I'm serious, though...
Some women consider a man opening a door for them a sexist thing. I really think that's a stupid thing. In my mind it means the man has been taught well.
I have been known to open the door for a man if he had his hands full or was disabled. And I would also hold open a door for a woman. It's just a polite and nice thing to do.
I guess living in the south has made me appreciative of good manners. There's nothing wrong with that.
It is my opinion that sometimes men do get the short end. If we had kids and my husband wanted to stay home and take care of them while I worked, that would be OK with me. I don't know a lot of stay at home dads, but the ones I do know love what they do.
The other thing is that there is a difference between a man paying a compliment to a woman and committing sexual harassment. Men should not be afraid to tell a woman she looks nice. If the woman chooses to take it the wrong way, that is not that man's problem.
The argument will go on as long as there are men and women! Sweetthing always allowed she didn't want to be equal to men. Why should she lower herself to that level. HUSH MY MOUTH.
Appreciate the link! You must have been digging back in the archives to have found that piece.
SHHHHHHHHH!!!
i work in a primarily male industry, and i like harrassing the boys...put a lid on it sister!!
you might like a laugh...
http://limb-s.blogspot.com
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